Why should I forgive someone who’s hurt me?

This can be a sensitive topic so I will try to tread carefully. Because by talking about forgiveness I am not saying that what someone did to you, that hurt you, is ok and I am not diminishing, dismissing or invalidating your feelings or experience. 

But what I am saying is, if you haven’t forgiven that person are you suffering, are you continuing to drink the poison from that well by recalling or suppressing that experience? Does your tummy tense thinking about that experience? Does it make you sweaty and or draw up unwanted thoughts, emotions or feelings?

On a scale of one to ten, how good are you at forgiving? Do you want to forgive? Are you ready to forgive? Or do you want to wear your experience as a badge of honour? Because sometimes it feels good to know you survived that time, you won a small victory by carrying on and living. Or does this experience crush you and stop you from doing things you want to do by creating  invisible barriers? 

Does that experience make you feel angry or resentful, which can turn into revenge, wanting to get even with that person which can then turn into maliciousness where you intend to hurt that person and then even worst still, ruthlessness where you don’t care what happens to that person and then worse again this can turn into hatred. They can be some strong emotions, that aren’t attractive on anyone, they vibrate very lowly and can be destructive to those who harbour them and to those around them.

Taking a step back, what does forgiveness mean? Forgiveness means to stop feeling hurt, angry or resentful to someone for something they said or did to you that caused injury, hurt, suffering, pain or offence. 

There are two types of forgiveness, internal forgiveness where you inwardly forgive someone and outwardly may need to have a safe barrier and keep them out of your life, and you can think, as Master Co says, “Namaste, stay away”. And there is outward forgiveness where you decide you forgive that person and you can talk to them without them triggering you for the injury they caused. According to Master Choa Kok Sui’s teachings, inward forgiveness is for all and outward forgiveness is for some.

Here is the thing, the person who hurt you, probably isn’t thinking about you or what they did. And maybe that thing they did to you isn’t even on their radar, they are most likely, continuing to live their life in the way they choose to.

For you though, it might be something that is continuing to hurt you. So why not let it go? Forgive that person or many persons and move on positively in your life. Don’t continue to drink the poison from the well and dwelling on the past. Because who’s getting hurt in this scenario? You are, not the person who hurt you, they are probably fine. But if you continue to think negatively about that person, you get hurt. 

This hurt or any of negative emotions sited earlier can then turn into more negative energies and thought forms that affect your energetic system and can then manifest into your physical body. What happens to you when these negative energies get stronger and stay in your system for some time? They then come forward into your physical body and have negative effects and can manifest as diseases like cancer, hypertension, gallstones, arthritis and other conditions.

The bible says something like, it is in forgiving it is forgiving that we are forgiving and it is pardoning that we are pardoned. 

For if you forgive other people when they sin against you, your heavenly Father will also forgive you. But if you do not forgive others their sins, your Father will not forgive your sins. Matthew 6:14-15. And the prayer of St Francis, “it is in pardoning that we are pardoned”. 

The law of karma, means that by forgiving we are forgiven. We all make mistakes, me too, we are all learning and by showing forgiveness and mercy to others, including the animal kingdom, mercy and forgiveness will be shown to us. 

So why forgive? Why not. 

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